Understanding why we feel stressed and how to overcome it with spiritual practices.

STRESS You have the decision to view life any way you want…

Aligning with your soul or aligning with your ego will determine your daily life and how stressed you are day to day.

How many of us experience stress?

A perception of stress is that it is because of what others do or circumstances out of your control that make you stressed, and how others makes you feel. That belief is coming from a place of the victim and is self-imposed and self inflicted. If you believe stress is because of other people’s behaviour you are not aligned with your soul and the universe . . .that means you feel stress because of others in your life. This comes from ego. Believing and living from this view means you can never be free. Because your happiness is determined by others or the life you must lead. ‘Stress is not how you feel based on how others act or your environment, it is your minds projection of any situation.’

 

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Stress is however a reminder that you are not aligned with your souls purpose! As is any negative emotions. Any moment of stress is if you are in alignment with the energy of your ego mind and viewing the universe from a place of fear and without faith in the higher purpose.

We say things to ourselves like . . .’If I had more money’, or ‘If I was thinner’, or ‘If I had more Facebook likes’ or ‘If my business were bigger’. Then I would not be stressed, I would be happy . . .but this mindset will never lead to happiness. Because it comes from ego and lack, and a place of viewing your life as if others can affect or influence it . . . but the truth is YOU have full control to change that view and connect with your soul and the universal energy and flow in life.

When do you know if you have done that?

You’ll feel happiness, inner peace, contentment, no need for external influences or the need to numb your emotions with TV, food, drugs, alcohol, over exercising, mindless activities…but happy with simple pleasure found naturally and from within.

If you aligned with ego life will always seem dissatisfying, without passion, holding on to grudges, not forgiving. Life seems chaotic, painful, hard and out of your control, as if life is treating you unfairly . . .you will feel exhausted and sick and the outcomes in life will not fulfil you and you will always need the next thing or material objects to get some sort of pleasure. i.e. external temporary happiness.

So when you learn to align with your souls purpose, you will have a life of abundance, prosperity, health and a change of circumstances. And you will see the flow and ease of how life can be.

So how do you overcome stress and be in stressful environments and around stressful people without connecting to that energy?

Daily mediation practices, self care practices and learning to accept and love yourself and your current life situation. Faith and trust in the flow of the universe letting go of forcing life. Opening and aligning with your inner voice and connect to the universal energy. Stop pointing and blaming  others for causing your stress and see stress as a message or warning from your soul that you are not aligned. Stop what you are doing and breath and take a new path, try to align with what your inner voice is saying. I would suggest connecting to the highest vibration you can through using mindset coaching, a master, a spiritual group, a yoga class, a qigong class or spiritual practice you connect with. That may be a friend who lifts you up and inspires you… 

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I would be honoured to help you through a stressful time and teach you the tools that have given me the strongest mindset I’ve ever had and the dream life I’ve always wanted.

Contact me today for a free 20 minute consultation to see how we could work together.

Hannah x x

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You must become selfish to find peace!

Is it selfish to look after yourself?
Is it a bad thing to put yourself first?

Most woman I work with find this concept hard, as I once did too. I’m from a hard working family and I was taught you have to work hard and many hours to achieve anything. And to be kind to others and help others first. Not a bad message right?

Well what if most of us go through life conditioned by media and our society to thinking it’s not ok to take time for ourselves. Or that to follow your dream and not work in a 9-5 proper job means your lazy. Or that taking a day to rest and look after yourself means you must feel guilty. God forbid a weekend to yourself away from the kids!

To be selfish means to align to your true core beliefs, or your soul. To be happy with your choices and to put your happiness and alignment above anything else. This doesn’t sound bad does it? So why do we have such a hard time doing this simple life skill?

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When we are building a career or when we have children, often this balance really goes out the window and we believe that to be a good mother or employee we must sacrifice being who we where or really are, or carers or dreams get put aside to just get shit done. I lost my sense of self and had no idea who I was after having my kids, I threw everything into being a mum and healing my boys I forgot to care and love for myself, I was just a mum and not doing a great job of it because I wasn’t caring for my needs. Slowly I have clawed back a great sense of self and refuse to do, say or be anything that compromises that and became a better mother in the process. I,e I put my happiness first above all else. Does that sound bad to you?
To me it means I’m a better mother, friend, lover and wife.

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Why do we get sick and why are we always so tired?

Try to put your self first instead of always putting others happiness or their comfort above your own, even your kids. This does not mean being mean to people, not being generous or caring as these are the essence of life. Nor does it mean you can not be a great parent, employee or friend. It means you look after your energy fully so you have loads left over to share. Stop the conditioning crap and excuses and be selfish for once!! Yes you 😘

What’s mass consciousness and how can we all tap into it to help the planet and heal ourselves?

Each of us is a focal point of mass consciousness to varying degrees of spirituality. Mass consciousness is all around us and we tap into it even if we do not know it. Not only does media and society influence us, but so does the mass collectiveness that is universal oneness. Have you ever found yourself influence by your social group? Or by your community? Or found yourself following a change or movement without really knowing why or how you were brought to that knowledge? We have the power to tap into any consciousness we want. For example a vet goes to do an operation. She prepares by thinking about what she needs to do, that radiates a vibration from her heart to which other vibrations on that level attract to it (like attracts like) and she finds herself tapping into mass consciousness of all vets who have done that operation. She can choose to use that energy and be open to it or not. But it is still there. You can access this higher mass consciousness by living from a place of positivity and love.

Energy is made up on an atomic level. It’s all around us. This energy holds the programs to make and form each thing in this universe. Each body that dies, the energy disperses to make a new physical body while your soul moves on. We are all particles of this energy; each plant, dog or human is made from the same atoms and molecules. We are all one and the same. We are all hooked up and connected to the mass consciousness. Either contributing to it, or downloading from it. But when we are in physical form we feel individual and society celebrates this individuality, so we feel we are all separate and stand alone and that our thoughts are ours; and that we had them first. When the individual starts to rise above and out of certain lower vibration mass consciousness. We see that we are in fact all connected, and that as a united mass consciousness we can raise our vibration and make big changes in the universe from love and positivity.

But you are just you!
I hear this a lot “what can I do I’m just one person” or it doesn’t matter if I eat that, it will still happen” or “they will still sell that even if I don’t buy it” “a few vegans won’t change the industry”
This type of mindset keeps those people at the level of fear and hopelessness and they tap into that mass consciousness that they can not make a difference and hold no power. The thoughts and feelings from the mass consciousness they are vibrating at, validates them. You will see what you want to see. How much is real and how much is your thoughts tricking you to see what you think you want to see?

It takes a rain fall of tiny droplets to trickle to make a stream, and a stream to make a river and many rivers to make an ocean. And what’s an ocean? Many individual droplets of water!

So YOU can choose to tap into a higher vibrational mass consciousness and use positivity and loves collective energy to make a difference, or you can use that collective fear, grief and sadness to live scared of change, scared of death, worried about money, influenced by society and media who wants to keep you dumbed down and unaware. They want you to believing your thoughts are you (because like attracts like) without fear, war and greed where would the majority be?
But then let’s reverse that! Where would you be without fear, debt, time, hopelessness?. . . We all would be in communities that would all support and work together. The planet would be sustainable. Each person would be equal without leaders and elite tyers of society. No one would go hungry. Each person would have an equal share of wealth and possessions. Food would be available real and healthy. We would support our young, old and special humans. We would all meditate to stay connected and home in on lost arts like telepathy, clairvoyance and intuition. We would all be accepted and celebrated for our individuality and skills but come together as one for the higher good of each other, as we understand we are all one. We would have time to grow, expand and learn. But all do roles to raise the vibration of the planet and keep the cogs moving ie farm, build, make. Most importantly we would not live in fear, or fear death.

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So what can you and I do?

Look after that homeless man on the street, not just feel despair about a country of homeless war torn people. Share with your neighbours, not just despair at our country not opening our borders to other humans that need it. Buy local, organic and support farmers on our doorstep not despair about GMO’s as the grass roots organic movement will grow and stomp out such idiotic practices. Stop harming other life. Respect each living soul, even plants have some lower levels of consciousness. Stop talking to yourself and others badly, you just grow the lower levels of mass consciousness. Show love to each and every life on the planet and know that they are no more individual or different than you. Even if their skin is a different colour or they speak in a different tongue or are from a different upbringing to you. We are all ONE and all need love, and should be shown love. Those who are stuck at lower levels of consciousness would soon be raised up from a mass consciousness that come from love, if that was the predominant vibration of this planet. So each of us plays our part and each of us is vital to influence and spread the word of love and show love, let’s start a love movement in our lives, community, country then planet. Thanks for reading. Type ‘yes’ below if you would like this download of love and world peace 🙏🏻

What is ‘Theta Healing’ and how can it help you?

Theta Healing is a unique technique unlike any other energy healing work in that you can clear trauma, directly re-programme the subconscious with new beliefs and teach new feelings to every cell of the body instantly including changing your DNA.

It only takes a couple of minutes and the whole session is 60 minutes long and the effects can be felt for the rest of your life. Some people need one session others need more.  It is not a religious-based therapy and is not part of any church or religious denomination, but as a client you have to be open and and believe in a higher source energy and believe in yourself and the practice of mindfulness.

The ability to feel happiness and love has always been there but we open the receptors to be able to identify the feeling and re program the messages from childhood and media that you have been fed over time or unhelpful beliefs and painful feelings stored in the subconscious.

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The feelings and intuition work we do allows us to look at our environment from a different perspective by healing emotional and spiritual aspects of ourselves and this is what makes Theta Healing so powerful.

What is a ‘Health Coach’ and how can they help you achieve your goals?

Theta Healing is a spiritual, physical and emotional healing technique conducted while you and the practitioner are in a theta brainwave state. This is where you are awake but fully relaxed, as you would be during a mediation, this is achieved by breathing techniques and a guided mediation from ourselves, so even if you have never mediated before we can assist you to get into a theta state.

Theta Healing can help with a wide range of issues from releasing past trauma, abuse, resentment and anger, to finding your life’s purpose, feeling safe and supported, infertility blockers, improving relationships and recovering from broken relationships, low self- esteem and confidence, physical health problems, self sobataging blockers, depression, aniexty,  mis-guided beliefs, past life trauma, current trauma, forgiveness, weight loss, balancing hormones and diseases. The lady who started this technique healed her self from cancer in her leg read about it here: http://www.thetahealing.com/about-vianna-stibal-founder.html

With this Theta Healing technique we can assist you to connect to your Inner Being/Soul/Source/God or which ever word you prefer or resonates with you and connect you to the higher energy source of the universe that creates all that we are, see and feel, and if you are open to it and feel it is right ask your spirt guides to assist you in your path or pass on any messages they have for you.

 

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For a consulation or Theta session with myself Hannah Miles or Robin Miles, my beautful husband who is qualified Theta Healer too, and holds a natural gift for healing and has a powerful connection to source energy. Please go to my contact page.

Read more on this web link:

http://www.thetahealing.net.au/unique-about-theta

 

What does “Mindful Eating” really mean and how can it help your food intolerance?

For years I put everything into what I was eating and the quality of the food without ever thinking about the words I used around food and the way I spoke to my self when I ate that food or even prepared my food. Now I truly know the power of words and thoughts and how they can effect everything you eat and how your body responds to the food on a cellular level and if it will react to it or not.

So how the hell does a word effect if you react to tomatoes or not? Well in one way it doesn’t . . . but in another way it does. By using positive words, mindful eating and affirmations daily you raise the vibration of your body and when you are vibrating at a higher frequency your body heals it self. Your cells rejuvenate faster, repair more efficiently and cope with foods better as it’s not in a state of inflammation.

So what is “Mindful Eating” it’s banded around so often in blogs, but what does it really mean?

 

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What it means is to slow down when eating and take some care over what you fuel your body with. When you are busy and running around at work or with kids or shopping, your in fight or flight mode, most of us live in this state 90% of the time. We are at a very anxious level all day and can not switch off. Then when we eat we inhale our food throwing it in our mouths. So not only do we not digest in fight or flight but also as we have eaten to fast it puts an added burden on our bodies. To digest our food we must switch back into our parasympathetic nervous system ‘repair and digest” or there is not point eating at all, as all it does is laden the body with a burden you don’t get the minerals and benefits from eating food.

wen you cook your food think about how much it went through to get to you. Thank the farmers, the animal that sacrificed it’s life, or the earth, sea or tree for providing it to you. When you have it in front of you touch, taste and smell it to start appreciating it. When you eat it, smell it to start the saliva in your mouth, which tells the brain to start activating the juices in your stomach, and prepare your body to start the digestion process. An example of the reverse of this is inhaling a burger in a few bites and that burger sitting in your stomach unable to be digested, as the body has had no warning signs it was coming. But if you cut ripe water melon and smell it and lick your fingers, your body is aware of what your about to eat and it gets excited as it pulls up that memory of eating it. You feel grateful for this watermelon and say to yourself ‘this will replenish my body and hydrate me, this is exactly what I need right now’ your body will digest this very easily.

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How you talk to yourself and feel makes a big affect on your digestion system and how the body takes nutrients to the cells too. An example of this is: ‘This food will heal me’ ‘This food is nourishing my body’ or ‘I’m so grateful for this food’.

The opposite to this is: ‘This isn’t very good for me’ ‘I shouldn’t really eat this’ or ‘I’ll have to pay for this tomorrow and have to go to the gym for 2 hours’

One is telling your body this is great food to eat and the other is saying don’t digest this it will harm you and the body will send out white blood cells to eradicate it. Now this doesn’t mean you can eat junk food with positive affirmations, as junk food is junk food at it serves no purpose in your body and causes inflammation . . . but it means not to beat yourself up when you have an indulgent healthy treat as that will be worst than the treat on the body and your everyday food should be eaten with appreciation and in a slow mindful manner. CHEW CHEW CHEW!! Oh and CHEW!

Your posture can play a part in this too up right strong and happy or slumped tired and unhappy? Choosing a positive mindset

Another level of this is: choosing the right “diet” or way of eating for your body. There are so many celebrities out there who indorse their way of life. But we have all got different bodies and our bodies all react differently to food, environment have certain genes are switched on or not. Just because it worked for that celebrity it may not be right for you. So how do you know what “diet” I hate that word . . . is right for you?

Well if you eat meat and your body feels heavy, sluggish and you feel guilt for eating an animal, then maybe that’s not right for you no matter what fade “diet” is in at the time. Or maybe you eat meat and it gives you so much energy and makes you fit and lean and you have no issue eating an animal, then maybe it is right for you.

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Your mindset when going into a new way of eating is so important. If you believe in it and feel it is right than it most likely will be right, as your mindset is in alignment. If you go into a new fade diet and you say to yourself ‘this will be a hassle’ or ‘it will be hard and I wont be able to stick to it.’ Or something I hear all the time ‘my kids wont eat that!” . . then you guessed it, it will be hard and not work as you have set your self up for failing before you started you are sending out that vibration and you and your kids will pick up on that. Go in to any thing in life with the right mindset and alignment and things will fall into place and work for you.

The food it self is vibrational and a plant just picked or a fruit just picked will have a high vibration that will help to keep your body vibrating at a high level and running efficiently. If you choose food that is void of vibrations and a dead food like an over cooked burger which hold no life force in it at all. All it will do is dull your body’s energy and flow of life force, over time this plays its price on your body and inflammation and disease.

So is it mambo jumbo or scientific fact? Try it and see! Think about the way you talk to your body and how you feel when you eat a food and they way you talk to your self after eating a food and see if you can twist it positively and see any changes. I used this to overcome my fear of food as so many foods I used to react to. I just kept saying before I ate a food ‘oh I will react to this’ and low and behold I did! When I started to say ‘I love this food and I’m going to eat it and have fun and be relaxed’ suddenly foods I couldn’t eat caused me no problem. Even some foods I eat everyday might cause a reaction if I’m in the wrong mindset as my conscious ego pops up and says ‘oh don’t eat that your eyes will come up’ NO NO NO they won’t hahahah!

Positively and positive words raise Serotonin and reduces Histamine in the body. Help regulate the glands and lowers the white blood count. I.e. inflammation!

So how do you actually eat mindfully?

You need to prepare your body for food. Shovelling food into the body and not chewing properly stops digestion and if the body is working hard on digestion it will take energy away from other functions and you will feel sluggish and tired and bloated after you eat . . . (Christmas dinner anyone?). You are supposed to feel energised and light after food. If you are not re think the food you are eating!

So do the following before you eat always!

  • Take 10 deep belly breaths
  • Be grateful for the food
  • Smell your food
  • Touch your food
  • Thank the farmers or who ever made it for you

By this stage your mouth will be watering sending signals to the gut to start the digestive juices and the enzymes that are needed to break down the food. Digestion starts in the mouth!

CHEW CHEW CHEW CHEW CHEW 30 times each mouthful!

  • Savour each mouthful
  • Thank your body for digesting this food.
  • Be grateful for how lucky you are for having great food and the time to eat it-if you have not got time to eat re think your priorities and work on the balance in your life like what we spoke about earlier.

The other side to mindful eating is knowing where your food comes from and looking after the planet.

  • How was it raised and killed?
  • What part of the world did it come from?
  • What has it been through to get here?
  • What the life force or vibration of this food?

Choosing a positive mindset

When life isn’t going to plan it can be easy to slip into feeling that things are just not going to get any better, especially when you’re faced with issues that seem out of your control, like the health of your children or yourself.

After our son William was diagnosed with autism, aged 2, I experienced a deep depression.

It wasn’t just the result of William’s diagnosis and the grief I felt for the loss of the future I’d imagined for my family and the diagnosis came after two years of struggling every day in what felt like battle zone.

For two years William’s behavior had challenged us, even when he was tiny he screamed every day. Add to this a difficult pregnancy with my second child, and my onset of chromic fatigue and fibromyalgia, and then our second son Edward was diagnosed with a global developmental delay.

I lost all hope. I felt that nothing good was ever going to happen for my family. I felt completely overwhelmed, i lost the will to live.

But, somehow, amongst the chaos that our lives had become, I chose to let go of the negative mindset I had developed and instead tried very hard to see my world with a positive mindset.

I chose to see the good in our lives. I chose to look past the negatives and appreciate each of the gains my boys made – no matter how small they were. I chose to investigate ways to live a healthier lifestyle. I chose a positive mindset, and I haven’t looked back each day I get stronger and more positive. I am now strong in my mind and live each day asa happy confident woman with a healthy family. That is somewhere back then I could never see happening.

Mindset is definitely a choice. Anyone can choose to focus on the positives and anticipate happiness, health and success – and be much better for it.

A positive mindset can give you the feeling that anything is possible and allows you to look forward with hope. It also gives you freedom to look innovatively at the challenges you face and find solutions that a negative mindset may have not allowed you to see.

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Thinking positively also gives you an opportunity to see the help being offered by others, and to embrace it.

Alternatively, by choosing to think negatively you can be left feeling that the world is against you, people are there to hurt you, that there are no positives on the horizon and you may find yourself drawn to conflict or combative situations.

For families with autistic children, your day-to-day struggles will continue to overwhelm you and you may not have the strength to help you family make the best of every situation.

Is it time you chose a positive mindset and gave yourself permission to feel happy, recognise your achievements and look forward to the future with hope?

You can do this and I’m here if you would like me to help you and your family along the way.

Please contact me for a free consultation on how I can help you on your pathway to health. Mindset is the key!

 

Blessings x x

Hannah@nourishtohealth.com.au

0414967763

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Mediation and Breathing techniques for beginners!

My journey with meditation and the power of mindset began about 5 years ago when I needed techniques and changes in my life to cope with health issues and the health of my children. I saw very quickly how strong being mindful was and how I can overcome physical conditions with just my mind. I use mindfulness and mediation in each and every day and today I have a strong sexy brain!

Mediation is one of the biggest tools in my healing and our family’s healing and that I now bring to my clients as it is the key to bring all their health goals together. The science of this ancient art form is that breathing deeply and slowly through your belly helps the vagus nerve (running from the neck down through the diaphragm) to send a signal to your brain to turn up your parasympathetic nervous system i.e. (relax and repair) and turn down your sympathetic nervous system i.e. (fight or flight).

A good breath practice to start with is:

  • Breath in for 3 seconds
  • Hold the breath for 5 seconds
  • Breath out for 5 seconds
  • And repeat for as long as you can.

This breath work can be increased to 5 seconds and 8 seconds when you have become comfortable with the first stage.

What ever way works for you be it, Mickle Therapy, Theta Healing, Mediation Apps, Yoga, Meditation, chanting, reading healing self help books like ‘The Power Of Now’ or walking in nature. Finding your key to unlocking your spiritual practice and calming your ‘chattery’ mind, breathing deeply and calmly will help every aspect of your life.

What is spirituality?

My interoperation is that you become aware that you are your body, mind and energetic body, and that they are all connected and that we are connected to each life force in the universe. And that we are all made from the same atoms and molecules or “star dust” and that nothing happens without a reason as we make out won destiny! it can have everything or nothing to do with religion . . .mediation can help you see and feel this.

A few ticks I have been taught along the way and things I’ve found that help me are:

When you meditate it’s not about having a blank mind with no thoughts, more when a thought arises and it will. Don’t pay it any attention just let it drift through your mind or sweep it away. When you pay attention to thoughts aniexty arises as you live in the future or dwell on the past. Over time your thoughts will be less crowded and you’ll let them pass without any attention. If you can hold a positive clear thought for 17 seconds another positive thought will join it and you will feel happier very quickly. The same goes for a negative thought and downward spirals . . .

Finding time for mediation practice can be hard and I’ve learnt not to make it perfect. It’s better to learn this practice in the noise of work, kids, a play ground or whilst the kids are screaming and running around, learn to be mindful in each day. For a long time I sort perfection to be able to mediate the cables and chants and the incenses . . . ha well that never happened. There will always be noise distractions and “life” Mediation is just to be aware of your body, breath and thoughts. It does not need to be hard . . .stop over thinking it!

Practising in a perfect calm yoga studios or mediation rooms has it’s place and is brilliant for healing and others who are in a higher vibration to you can help lift you up, but if you cannot keep that practice space up once your at home you loose that feeling and get despondent. Which stops mindful-living and being present from becoming a daily life choice.

Instead learn to breath and calm you mind with all that is around you and your practice will be stronger.

I few places I like to mediate or concentrate on my breath are:
mediate in the car before school pick up.
Breath deeply and slowly at the traffic lights.
Lying on the floor while the kids watch movies and meditate.
In the garden even when the kids are screaming and attacking each other with water finding a space to sit with my breath.
Putting on an App just before bed or in the bath.

Raising my legs up the wall and being still is the latest way to get out of my head!

Mediation can be done whilst walking or running or cycling too. Anything that allows your mind to be calm and thoughts to drift in and out without giving them any momentum or power. To walk slowly in the grass noticing the feel on your feet and the sounds and the air on your face can be just powerful as chanting in a circle with enlightened hippies! -I can say that am a chanting hippie at heart hahah!

I hope these tips help you see you can strengthen you practice anywhere at any time.

Blessings in your day and let me know if these techniques helped you x x

How your thoughts can heal your body.

Your mindset can heal your body beyond what food and supplements can do. It has taken me a long time to really connect to this thought but i have seen it over and over with clients. We often put a lot of effort into taking the right supplements, green juices and organic foods that is what our bodies need for fuel and to heal. But with every negative thought or judgment of yourself or others you counteract all that good work you’ve done. Don’t get me wrong eating junk and loving your self is not the road to health but eating well and not looking after your mind allowing ‘chatter’, doubt and self criticism that arises daily is not the answer either.

I use to think it was ok to talk to myself and beat myself up in my head. Tell myself I’m not pretty enough, slim enough, talented enough i’ve done it my whole life – hey we all do it, we are all stressed its normal right? . . . but it is not ok and we all do it and we all think the other person has an easier life clear of stress and negative thoughts. Well ladies we all have insecurities and we all think we are not good enough! WHY?

In my dream world we would all celebrate each other, support each other’s dreams and love our differences. We would not look at the girl across the street and think I wish I had her car or her hair or I wish my legs looked like hers or my job was as well paid full of envy and jealosy.

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But we have all heard this before right? Well did you know that every negative thought about you or someone else surges Cortisol through your body and it can take up to 1 hour to process that and disperse it out of the body. It uses up vital minerals and nutrients and stops your body using your fat cells for energy and it therefore runs off of glucose instead which is needed for healthy brain. Meaning it keeps you in that “fight or flight’ state we hear so much about. The mind looks to the past for happy memories to release happy hormones making the future an anxiety fueled place to be. So ladies don’t do it. Live in the now!

Stop that ’chatter’ in your head and stop the negative banter and worry especially what others think of you. Live from your heart not your head, be truthful to yourself and your loved ones. We are all in a vulnerable state and need love. If you have someone in your life who judges you and does not give you what you need . . . maybe now is the time to shed yourself of him or her. You don’t need that in your life so only surround your self with those who make you feel great, support your life and when you come away from them feel secure in that relationship. You need to be surrounded by loved ones who get you without judgment and need things in return. It sound tough but in the long run of your life it is best for you.

Choosing your mindset is as easy as dropping guilt for an action you did in the past – hey you can’t change it and you can’t re-do it, so let it go . . . . I personally held that over myself for years, flogging myself with guilt, self hate, blame and hating the decisions I’d made. But at the time I just did my best with what knowledge I had. A big part of my healing was to forgive others and myself and ‘let it go!’

You choose your actions, mindset and path not your parents, lovers or friends so stop blaming them for your life. Yes others actions and your environment may have influenced you, but you have the choice of how you act or respond to life situations. You can either turn a bad situation in to a positive or let that toxic situation eat you up and make you unwell. Been there done that – no thanks!

When William was diagnosed I fell in to deep depression after struggling to cope for 2 years it was enough to break me. After hitting rock bottom and I mean rock bottom, with the amazing support of my husband a few great friends I worked my way back up and saw all the positives that can come out of out of our new life path. Like a chance to learn and grow and change, to clean up our lives from chemicals and toxins, eat cleanly, live within our means with joy and simplicity. Not to take material things for granted and to stop climbing ladders and striving for goals that are unreachable and unimportant and to share my journey and help others. I had to go through an element of grieving for the life I thought I’d have but now every decision we make or step we take we ask ourselves is this best for the boys our family and in line with our values. This has led us to set up our businesses and we have met some truly beautiful friends on our journey to health who have shown us what’s important.

We are told often to ‘let it go’ and my dearest girl friend and I often laugh at what that means when you’re stressed, up to your eyeballs and exhausted. But over time we have both learnt it means to forgive ourselves, to be kind to ourselves and to let the small things, like a clean floor or perfect makeup or being on time go. These things are all surface things. The true importance is love, health and wellness of mind and compassion for each and every person. The rest you can ‘let go’ really you can let it go and that comes from a control freak with OCD for a clean house haha, you should see my house now!

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A few things that have helped me and still help when I fall off the mindset train of living from love and when I go back to my head and live in fear and with ‘chatter’ are:

Mediation: there is a common misbelief that to meditate you must have a totally blank mind. If you can achieve that, then that’s amazing. But you still get the benefits if you just slow down . . . breath deep belly breaths -In from your nose belly expand and out from your nose belly falls. Even 10 deep breaths will calm your nervous system down. If you find clearing your mind difficult focus on one thing like a candle flame or a tree and hold that thought for a long as you can. If stuff enters your mind sweep it away with a big brush and start again. Laugh at your thoughts and keep trying. Your ego wants to be “chatting” all the time. Don’t let it take over who you are. We use apps on our smart phones to start our mediation off each evening and they are handy if you are in the car before school pick up or a big work meeting. Yoga can help with this too and walking in nature daily.

Mickel Therapy: which is talking based therapy about taking action when an emotion arises and moving through it fast to clear you physical symptoms.

www.mickeltherapy.com/what-is-mickel-therapy/

Homeopathy: which works on lowering your level of stress building your nervous system and supporting you whilst you heal. I have used Dhanvanatari Collage and also more recently Michael Higginson in Geelong to support me.

http://www.geelonghomeopathic.com.au/about.html

http://dhanvantaricollegeofhomeopathy.com.au

A gratitude diary: I write 3 things I am grateful for each night in my phone. This helps me see the positives in the day, even if there were more negatives. So that last thing I think about are positives. We do this with the boys each night too, we talk about their day and pick 3 great things that happened and not dwell on what they may have done wrong or if they were upset.

Debt Clearing: no matter how hard it is if there is something upsetting me or someone had said something that has hurt my feelings I clear the debt by talking it through and not going to bed on it. This means setting boundaries and protecting myself first. It does not mean confrontation or stomping back in to a shop because someone was rude to me. Just simple clearing the air so it does not fester and become a physical symptom.

Happy list: each week I look at my dairy and decide if the tasks in it are + or – and if I have more – than + I plan a trip to the movies, yoga or catch up with a friends or get my nails done to balance up the week. This is putting joy into my life. Making sure I don’t get bogged down with the task of mother hood and running a house or running a business and not going without joy and fun for my being. Its unrealistic to think I can spend my time just in the + zone but if I have a few to look forward to it keeps me from feeling a lack of joy. The body is amazing it likes joy and fun and if it doesn’t get enough it makes you go back in the mind to find it. So feed it joy and fun and show it love and it will keep you in the now and physically strong.

So . . .

When you feel you’re self ‘chatting’ in your head STOP be aware – take action – and practice – clear your mind and start again.

When you have a week of – plan some + joy and fun!

Write down your gratitude list each evening.

Debt clear every night and set boundaries so your not being hurt.

Put yourself first and remember to love yourself and do your self care daily be that a new nail polish, a cup of tea in peace or a day in a spa to unwind or talking to your best friend.

As woman we put our children, partners or bosses first . . . please stop that we come first!

I find as i’m a visual learner I write positive athermations on my walls, mirrors and on postie notes in my car and keep them on my phone to remind me how to think and act. If you are a kinetic learner maybe you could listen to self help books. Find what works for you. . . and roll with it!

The only person that can heal you is YOU! The only person that can truly make you happy is YOU!

Choose to be happy and to live in the now, not the past or future, as that is where anxiety and fear is bred from.

Namaste beautiful ladies x x x